Things to avoid on a first date
Ever gotten nervous on a first date? It is normal for most people, especially for beginners. We barely know our date and will not want anything to ruin the date. So all we do is to impress them. The truth is that this nervousness is one of the things that can always ruin the first date most of the time.
It is advisable to be confident on a first date. Remember that there is no second chance to make the first impression. Here are some of the things you should never do on a first date in order to attract a second one.
Neglecting your table manners.
Being conscious of your manners in the first date is crucial. It is not good when the way you chew foods irritates your date. Please avoid talking when you have something in mouth or picking your teeth. Try as much as you can to show that you are a respectable person.
When on a first date, avoid any form of distraction. Stop looking around and don’t focus more on your phone. It clearly shows your date that He/She is not your priority at that moment. PHUBBING (being more interested in what is happening on your phone rather than what is happening in your surrounding) can be very annoying, you are less likely to have another date with someone if you lacked interest in the first date.
Talking about your Ex
Hey! You may still love your Ex or your Ex broke your heart, but it is not a very good topic to bring up on a first date. When you talk more of your Ex, it will signal that you are not ready to move on with your life.
Even if you bring it up, make sure you don’t dwell much on it. Remember, ”don’t say negative things about your Ex”, it shows you are a vengeful gossip.
Being unfriendly to people
Be friendly to people and most especially the person attending to you. Don’t command the bar attendant around or shout at them. Your date most times will judge you by your treatment of others than your treatment to him or her.
You can decide to take alcohol on your first date, but don’t overdo it. Alcohol will definitely make you to lose control. You may start saying things you never intended to say. It will make you to misbehave most times. But also remember, “Never avoid attending to your drink on a date with a stranger.”
Most of us have done this once or twice. Women are likely to lie about their age, some can even give you a fake name. Men on the other hand lie about their earning. Lying is never a good way to make the first impression.
Lying on a first date can be a hindrance to advancing into a relationship. Also if your partner finally finds out that you lied, it will reduce the trust in the relationship. Lying is also a clear indication of a low self esteem and a poor self image.
Don’t take any discussion personal
There are some topics you shouldn’t bring up on a first date, avoid any discussion that might get confrontational. It is good to get to know each other on a date, but try not to discuss topics that can cause a crash of interest. Even if it arises, don’t take it personal.
Remember it’s not an interview
A first date is an avenue to know each other. It should be more of an interaction rather than one person doing all the talking. Don’t do all the talking and don’t do all the listening, try to make it an engaging interaction.
My friend avoid that God saves part now
It is just a first date! Try as much as you can to avoid turning it into a sermon or similar things. Many people hate it, when you interfere with their personal or spiritual life. When you make people to feel guilty, you only end up scaring them away from you. Don’t turn into a motivational speaker or a life adviser on just the first date.
Refusing to pay your bill
Most people still expect the guy to pay the bill. Remember that we are in the 21st century. Make sure you are fully prepared to pay your bill, if the other person feels reluctant to do so.
You may think that being late on a first date is fashionable, so you won’t look so eager or available. But, arriving late is very wrong, it is a sign of disinterest and disrespect too, some people can even take it as a lack of seriousness.
To make a good impression on a first date, make all the necessary sacrifice just to be punctual, it shows you are responsible and organized.
ENDING THE FIRST DATE
There are certain ways you should end a date, even if it was a very bad or the best date ever. Most importantly, remember to show gratitude. If the other person paid for the drinks, please appreciate them for it, also thank your date for honoring the date. If you are interested in seeing the person again, try to lock down the second date before going.
Ending the date with a kiss is also cool!!
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